Now that my tomboy is registered and passing as male in Karate class I have decided to ask him if he’d prefer to be using male pronouns at home and with grandparents now. Basically it was just in public but not with family yet. It has been hard knowing when to use “he” and when to use “she” depending on where we are.
He told me “yes, I want you to use male pronouns everywhere.” He then asked about the grandparents (who know about the changes) and was worried they would get confused. I explained that they were completely on board and just want whats best for him. This made him very happy and said, “yes I want them to too.”
This is a big change. It’s saying, “it’s time to make this permanent.” It’s nerve-wracking but exciting too. I am getting used to saying ‘him’ and so is his sister. He loves when she refers to him as a boy. The next big step is how to approach going back to elementary school in the fall….