Everyday Tasks

I didn’t really think about how having a gender non-conforming kid would affect our everyday tasks. Very simple little things I always took for granted. 

Tasks made complicated by having a girl passing as a boy:

~Taking him into the girls bathroom

~Going to the women’s dressing room

~Shopping for clothes

~Remembering what pronouns to use with whom (public places=he, friends and relatives=she)

~Explaining the haircut

~Explaining why “a boy is wearing girls clothes” when he wears his old shirts

~Explaining why “a girl is wearing boys clothes” when he wears a baseball cap and Tony Hawk outfit in front of friends

~Going to the first day of practice for girls soccer

~Going to the first day of Gymnastics

There are a lot more. I never had to think about this when he was a she. 

The Boy Section

I took my daughter shopping for socks last week. We started in the girls section but they were all too bright and frilly. She just wanted some black socks. So we wondered into the boys section to find a pack of black, grey and white socks. She was thrilled! She wears them everyday and has tossed aside the pink and purple ones I bought her a few months ago. It’s amazing how accustomed I am to buying girly stuff.

She needs new PJ’s too. So without her I went to the store and browsed the boys clothes. I was surprised to see there are not many boys PJ’s. I guess I’ve never really looked in the boys clothing much and didn’t realize this. I would like to get her more gender neutral or male PJ’s but I’m not sure where to go. Any advice would be helpful!